Matt Kingdom has been a personal trainer for nearly five years and from his experience with clients, he thinks that the lack of belief in yourself could be holding yourself back from your goals and aspirations!
The main question is, what do you believe in? Is it spiritual, is it psychological or is it a physical thing?
The main reason I ask is that, as a personal trainer, I talk and work with people on a daily basis and have become an ‘agent of change’ (cool title right? Google search after reading this) and it seems as if something that is being so easily missed is becoming a regular feature for me in my job.
I’ve been a personal trainer for nearly five years now, and have had the pleasure of working with a diverse range of clients with a vast mix of abilities, cultural backgrounds and belief systems and recently I’ve noticed that there seems to be a lack of belief in ‘self’. The doubt, the little voice in your head that says ‘you can’t do this’ seems to be the go-to statement in the public’s mind.
Struggling with that voice, that often shouts louder than the others plays a huge part in my job – encouraging and often convincing others to look inside themselves and literally tell themselves that something is possible, happens on a weekly basis, and I don’t mean just in training or exercise. It seems as if this negative outlook has somehow crept its way into everyday life.
I love my job, but hearing people I respect, understand and who would I’d give my left arm for, say they don’t believe they can do something and this genuinely frightens me. Where has this disbelief come from? What’s caused this mind set?
I know times have been a little tough recently and that we have all had to dig a little deeper just to motivate ourselves to do the little things, but there is always space to turn a negative into a positive. Cheesy? Yes, overstated? Yes. True? Definitely!
I guess it’s a personal and quite a deep seated respect for others why I ask this question, but it’s also my job to navigate peoples mind set to a place where they feel as if they can.
A friend told me something very poignant recently, a friend who has battled his own demons for a while and has come out of his own hole through a change of diet, and a lot of reading – he said “You cannot change the past. Don’t dwell on it. We cannot be controlled by things that have happened, and don’t stress about the future. It hasn’t happened yet. Think about the present, the ‘right now’ and enjoy where you are in that moment. Be in the present”.
He’s not a hippy. He’s not a psychologist and I’m not here to preach, but what he said really makes sense. BE in the present. It took me a few days to realise how strong those four words are – be in the present. He said it without judgment or hesitation, and he’s got a point.. disbelief is based on what you’ve known in the past, and what you think will happen in the future. Live in the now, and believe you can achieve something and you will.
Stretch, take a yoga class, pick up those dusty weights, go for a run, eat healthy today and who knows where you’ll be tomorrow. I guarantee you’ll feel better for it!
So what do you believe in? Believe in yourself.
Death to disbelief.